Erection problems don’t just affect men – they can also have a real impact on a partner and a relationship as well.
And they’re more common than you may think. It’s estimated that half of all men between the ages of 40 and 70 suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) to some degree – with this rising to 7 in 10 men aged 70 and above.
What are erection problems?
An erection problem is the inability to sustain an erection which is good enough for a man to achieve penetration or orgasm.
Some people are able to masturbate with a relatively soft penis and still achieve orgasm, but it may well not be good enough for penetration. It also depends on what kind of sex you’re having.
ED or Weak Erection can be caused by a number of issues including hormonal imbalance, a restriction in the flow of blood to the penis and psychological causes such as stress, anxiety and depression.
The impact of weak erection in a relationship
Men can often feel quite frustrated about not being able to achieve an erection and it can be very demasculinising – the fact that they may see this as a symbol of their fertility and manliness and they’re not able to achieve it on demand.
This can be cause by pressure like pornography or people writing about having having better sex for longer in the media. Often the reality is that if you’re stressed, have had a busy day, have eaten late and the kids are screaming and then you try to have sex, it’s just not going to happen.
Female partners will worry that they’re not attractive enough or that their husband is having an affair and can’t get an erection because he is having sex elsewhere. But this is unlikely to be the cause.
And sometimes a woman may be concerned that her partner is addicted to porn – which can be an issue and can occasionally be the case where you can’t get an erection in real life.
However, again, there are other more likely explanations.
Talking with your partner about erectile problems
Of course, erection problems can be a difficult issue for couples to discuss – but talking openly can often be the best way of resolving stress and identifying underlying causes. Talking about what’s going on is a much better approach than pretending erectile problems aren’t happening or just avoiding sex without giving a reason.
Communicate openly with your partner and accept that your relationship and sex life aren’t always going to be perfect and being relaxed about that you’ll have a healthy relationship that allows you to talk.
Realise that this isn’t going to be forever and perhaps examine your lifestyle together, which is such a big factor for erectile problems.
Look at things that you can change in your life and ask your partner to support you. It could be eating better, stopping smoking, exercising more or reducing stress levels. Or, perhaps you need to just find time for each other, where you’re not focused on kids, pets or work.
Change the way you think about sex
Consider having other forms of sex that does not involve penetration.
When should you get help?
If you have persisting difficulty with erections or you have had issues for longer than two to three months, get checked. Simply book an appointment with us.
We will be able provide you with a solutions related to your weak erection today.